“Just trust your gut”. Well-meaning people say to do this all of the time, right?
Ummm, newsflash: If you aren’t sure you can trust your gut in the first place, this advice only leads to more panic and anxiety. Sometimes you just want to shout, “but, I’m asking YOU! If I knew what to do, I’d do it!”
When I think about some of the most agonizing moments in my life, they were when I didn’t trust myself to make a decision. I can’t quite describe why I didn’t trust myself, I just didn’t. I always knew I was in particularly bad shape when I’d start asking my random cab drivers if they thought my current relationship was right for me – and no, I am not exaggerating with that story.
If you don’t trust yourself, you feel paralyzed and powerless. You. Want. Answers. And, gosh darn it, someone – no, make that anyone – knows better than you do!
Ghandi said, “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are harmony.”
When I think back to my own miserable experience of not trusting myself, I actually had the thinking part down pretty well. In fact, I spent a lot of time in my head. The saying and doing parts were where I got tripped up.
Those parts required tough conversations. Those parts might make me vulnerable or might cause me to disappoint another person. Those parts were…hard.
But, I also hated the not-saying and the not-doing. So, I eventually decided that I’d take Ghandi’s wise advice and I would commit to creating harmony between what I thought and what I said and did.
This was a life-changing shift for me.
Most of my clients have amazing instincts. Their “gut” is very wise. But, they don’t trust it. What they really want to do and say is buried under fear and self-doubt. So, they feel stuck, confused and lost.
You could say that I run a fear and self-doubt removal service. I help people move past the barriers that are holding them back from living a more honest, gut-trusting, fulfilling life.
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